What is emotional intelligence and how to teach modern children to be happy

Today, every self-respecting parent considers it necessary to send their child to all sorts of clubs like “Little Erudite”, “Smart Guys”, “Geeks” as early as possible. At the age of three, modern mothers and fathers require their children to know English, be able to count to 100, and draw in the style of Van Gogh.

But almost none of the modern parents pay attention to the development of the child’s emotional world, his feelings, emotions, communication abilities - what is included in the concept of “emotional intelligence”. Adults believe that these processes in a child should develop on their own, without outside help. And this is a big misconception.

An impoverished emotional sphere begins to “slow down” the development of intellectual processes. In addition, the increased technologization of life, the constant use of gadgets by adults and children lead to the emergence of the “dry heart” phenomenon: children become unemotional, less responsive to the feelings of other people and understanding their own emotions, their emotional intelligence does not develop.

So what to do? The answer is simple - to develop the child’s emotional intelligence, to teach him to understand himself and others.

In this article, you will become familiar with the concept of emotional intelligence, find out whether its development affects success in school, and also get an idea of ​​the methods and means of developing the sphere of emotions and feelings of your child.

Content:

• Emotional intelligence: concept and components How does emotional intelligence help a child in school learning?
• Is it necessary to develop EI?

When to start developing EI

Emotional intelligence develops more easily in children than in adults. From the age of four, preschoolers perfectly recognize basic emotions: fear, anger, sadness, joy. From the age of six to seven, regulation of behavior ( voluntariness ) develops. The child learns to monitor the influence of emotions on activities and consciously evoke the necessary emotional states. At primary school age, this skill develops into full-fledged emotional self-regulation.

Emotional intelligence should be further developed in childhood using special programs. Research by Yale University scientists has proven that in those US schools in which EI diagnostic and development programs were implemented over a two-year period, the emotional atmosphere improved. In conditions of emotional support, the academic performance and level of adaptation of children in society increased.

Sydney University professor Caroline McCann has identified a correlation between academic performance and children's ability to understand and manage their emotions. McCann and her colleagues analyzed data from 160 studies with a sample of 42,000 students from elementary school through college in 27 countries. The researcher found that the grades and test scores of students with high emotional intelligence were higher than those of their classmates, even with comparable IQs.

This happens because children with high EI are better able to cope with negative emotions - anxiety, boredom and disappointment - which have a latent impact on academic performance. These students also interact better with teachers and peers, which also affects learning.

Emotional intelligence: concept and components

Emotional intelligence is a type of intelligence responsible for a person’s recognition of his own emotions and the emotions of those around him, as well as for managing them. Scientists became interested in it relatively recently. The first work devoted to its study appeared in 1990. Its authors, Peter Salovey and John Mayer, identify four components of emotional intelligence:

1. Perception of emotions is a person’s ability to recognize his own emotions and the emotions of another person (by facial expressions, gestures, posture, behavior, voice).
2. Understanding emotions is the ability to determine the reasons for the appearance of a particular emotion in oneself and others, to establish a connection between emotions and thoughts.
3. Managing emotions is the ability to suppress emotions, awaken and direct your own and others’ feelings to achieve goals.
4. Using emotions to stimulate thinking - awakening creativity in yourself, activating the brain with the help of your own emotions.

In other words, the theory of the development of emotional intelligence consists of a child’s journey from understanding emotions to managing them.

How does emotional intelligence help a child in school learning?

The specifics of the modern educational process require from today's schoolchild increased attentiveness, rapid response to changing conditions, developed communication skills, suppression of momentary desires in order to achieve assigned tasks.

The results of a recent study of the level of emotional intelligence of high school students, conducted in a secondary school in the Orenburg region in 2021, are interesting:

Schoolchildren with a high and average level of development of the sensory sphere are adapted to the conditions of school life, more easily establish and maintain contacts with teachers and classmates, and are successful in the learning process.

Children with low and very low levels of development of emotional intelligence experience difficulties in communicating with peers and teachers, often conflict with them or find themselves isolated from the team. They often cannot cope with emotional states in stressful and critical situations. The performance of these children is satisfactory.

Are you worried that your child has problems communicating with peers at school, kindergarten, or that he does not have good relationships with teachers? Find out how things really are so you can help your child. Listen to the sound around you and determine your child’s location in real time using the application for caring parents “Where are My Children” from the AppStore and GooglePlay.

Do you need to develop emotional intelligence?

Definitely necessary. To determine at what level of development your child’s sphere of emotions and feelings is, you need to know the signs and criteria of low emotional intelligence, as well as methods for diagnosing it.

The emotional sphere of a preschool child

At each age stage, emotional experience accumulates. In the preschool period, there is a significant expansion of the circle of people with whom the child comes into contact. A variety of contacts enriches the emotional sphere.

Imagination also develops rapidly. And this process is the most emotionally intense compared to other cognitive processes.

From 2 to 4 years old, an emotional and practical form of communication is built between children. Often the communication of such kids consists of the opportunity to run or jump together. This makes them feel joy, interest, and admiration.

The emotional development of a child is a complex gradual enrichment of his emotional sphere, occurring in the context of general socialization.

Children's emotions are unstable. Their mood changes quickly. Younger preschoolers understand such simple emotional states as fear, anger, resentment, joy and grief. Every year, familiarity with human experiences expands.

It is still difficult for preschoolers to understand what feeling they are experiencing at a certain moment. However, some emotions are already identified by them, and quite early on you can hear from the baby: “I’m angry” or “I’m offended.”

If things work out, the preschooler experiences bright positive emotions. If it doesn’t work out, there will be strong negative experiences. There are more negative emotions. And they are not desired as much as positive ones. Teaching a child to recognize them and comprehend them is the main task of developing the emotional sphere in preschool age.

Then it will be time to learn to control the forms of manifestation of feelings. These are critical steps in developing emotional and social intelligence.

Signs of Low Emotional Intelligence

The level of emotional intelligence is called “emotional intelligence quotient” or EQ.

A person with low EQ:

• incapable of sympathy or empathy for another person. Neither other people's sadness nor other people's joy touches him. Such a person also cannot accept other people’s help and support; he does not understand people’s motives;
• close relationships like love and friendship are not available to such a person, since friendship requires mutual concessions, exchange of emotions, compassion and emotional support. Even if such a person creates a family, there will not be a warm atmosphere of love and attention;
• does not know how to control his emotions. Often such a person demonstrates either unbridled joy, uncontrollable rage, or lingering sadness. He does not always understand what is happening to him and how to help himself in such situations. In emotionally stressful situations, such people also get lost.
• does not understand that his own uncontrolled emotions can lead to disastrous consequences; in any unpleasant situation he blames other people, but not himself.
• does not know how to talk about feelings, cannot answer the question “What are you feeling now?”, does not listen to his own feelings.

Features of social intelligence of preschoolers

Adults receive reliable information in communication, largely focusing on non-verbal signals. Many psychologists emphasize the importance of facial expressions and gestures and note their predominant role in relation to speech. While adults are excellent at controlling speech, hiding true feelings and motives behind the right phrases, facial expressions and pantomimes are much less controllable.

It is more difficult for preschoolers to navigate sign language. This is explained by the peculiarities of the development of children’s cognitive processes and the formation of forms of communication. In preschool age, non-situational communication is just being formed. The development of speech skills as the basis of relationships between people comes to the fore. Children hear words and perceive the meaning of messages literally. Verbal information is the main thing for them.

The child will not look for a different meaning, even if his peer hands him a toy under his mother’s persistent persuasion that he needs to share it with friends. All facial signals will remain ignored, and the preschooler will happily take this toy.

Social intelligence in preschool age is still only in the initial stages of its development. Each structural component of intelligence needs to be developed. And in the future he will work to achieve the main goal - eliminating barriers to communication and developing mutual understanding in each individual case.

EQ diagnostics

Currently, there are 3 groups of methods for measuring EQ levels in adolescents and adults:

• techniques that study individual abilities that make up emotional intelligence;
• techniques where a person evaluates himself;
• methods where self-assessment and assessment of the level of emotional intelligence are carried out by members of the subject’s family, his colleagues, and friends.

To diagnose the level of emotional intelligence of preschoolers and schoolchildren, projective drawing tests of the type “Completing drawing: the world of things - the world of people - the world of emotions” are used, as well as questionnaires of various levels of complexity.

If you find it difficult to diagnose your child’s emotional intelligence yourself, contact a kindergarten or school psychologist.

Development of the sphere of emotions and feelings in children

At what age should you develop emotional intelligence? From birth. From the very first day of a child's life. Let us tell you in more detail how the child’s emotions and feelings develop at each stage of growing up.

Early age (from birth to three years)

As soon as a child is born, the development of his emotional intelligence begins. He sees the smiles of his family and friends, feels their touches, learns to accept and recognize the emotions of happiness, love, and care.

In the third week of life, the baby develops a revival complex - a special emotional-motor reaction directed towards an adult, which is expressed first in visual concentration on the face of mom and dad, then a smile, motor revival and humming appear.

A child’s acquaintance with the emotions of fear, sadness, and pain occurs when colic begins, teeth are cut, or the mother does not come to him for a long time.

Preschool age (4-7 years)

In preschool age, the development of emotional intelligence continues. The child gets acquainted with the names of emotions, learns to identify them in himself and other people, and learns ways to overcome anger and aggression.

The main thing at this age for a child is to fully experience the entire spectrum of feelings. But their parents do not always support them in this. Remember how often you heard from your moms and dads, and maybe you yourself often told your child: “Don’t cry!”, “Upset because of nonsense,” “I’m being a ninny,” “Don’t fight, you’re a girl.” . This is nothing more than the suppression of a child’s emotions, their devaluation, which not only does not contribute to the development of emotional intelligence, but also makes the child ashamed of himself and his own feelings.

Psychologists warn that holding back strong emotions in preschool age can lead to neuroses and psychological problems in adulthood.

Upon entering kindergarten, a child acquires the first skills of social interaction, learns to make friends, communicate with peers and adults.

School age (7-10 years)

At school age, the most intensive development of a child’s emotional intelligence occurs. He acquires the ability to recognize and accept his own feelings and emotions, and learns to control them. The child begins to understand the feelings of other people, find a common language with them, imagine himself in the place of another person, and empathize with him.

The main sources of knowledge of the world of feelings and emotions for a child are family and school. At school, the child takes part in the life of the class, interacts with classmates and teachers.

The child may face situations of bullying, rejection by classmates, and prejudiced attitudes from teachers. Difficult situations play a special role in a child’s life, giving him the opportunity to test his abilities, which in some cases will bring joy and pride in his own achievements, and in others will cause anger and disappointment. Here, emotional intelligence becomes a kind of regulator of life, consolidates the necessary emotional information and weeds out the unnecessary.

Adolescence (10-18 years)

This age is characterized by a “storm” of emotions and feelings that a teenager cannot always cope with. A young man or girl begins to realize his own exclusivity and uniqueness, at the same time opposing himself to others, which often leads to conflicts both with peers and with adults.

It is difficult for a teenager to process his emotions; he often does not understand what is happening to him. Emotional manifestations in adolescence are unstable: from wild joy to uncontrollable outbursts of aggression.

Therefore, it is important for parents, during this difficult period for everyone when a child is growing up, to become for him not a strict dictator, demanding unquestioning obedience and compliance with all norms and rules, but an understanding and empathetic friend. Moms and dads should not reject or devalue the complex and sometimes contradictory emotions, thoughts and actions of their child.

Rules for raising emotionally intelligent children

There are various methods for developing the emotional intelligence of middle-aged children, preschoolers, and toddlers. Children generally seek activity and enjoy repetition, so they are able to learn quickly while enjoying exercise. The following 5 rules are taken from the dissertation of D. Goleman, a journalist and psychologist from the USA, whose works include more than 10 books on psychology.

Ability to relax

Parents often forget to teach their children to calm down and relax. They have a lot of energy, they are constantly on the move, there is simply no time for rest. However, it is important to develop the ability to relax in babies from birth. A physically calm child can better understand what others are saying to him. Therefore, it is important that parents know how to calm him down. The easiest way to convey information to him is in the form of a game. As he gets older, encourage him to relax on his own. For example, a crib helps a child younger than 1-2 years old to calm down. Mom can find a permanent place in the house where she can always spend quiet time with her child during the day. Eventually it will become a ritual. For children over 1-2 years old, you can use your finger on their back to draw shapes, letters, animals (depending on age, ability level), and let them guess what you are drawing.

Children at this age enjoy play. A good way to calm yourself is through breathing games. First, the child takes a full breath, then holds his breath for a few seconds, after which he exhales. It is best to do exercises in the evening; Gradually teach your child to do activities independently throughout the day.

In children aged 2-3 years, you can use the imitation technique, i.e. You do the activities, and the baby repeats after you. In the case of breathing exercises, show him how to breathe - he will begin to imitate you. By following you, he will feel safe and will be able to enjoy relaxation exercises.

The ability to notice

Methods for developing emotional intelligence in preschoolers include teaching them to notice positive things that will help them improve their mood during difficult times. This will help you better manage negative thoughts. The ability to recall positive experiences helps to cope with painful moments in emotional memory.

Again, you can rely on the “evening ritual”, gradually leading the child to perform the exercises independently throughout the day (it all depends on age, abilities, skills). Talk to him about what good happened during the day. It is important that he enjoys the sensations of remembering pleasant experiences. Therefore, include questions about feelings in your conversation plan.

When communicating with young children, use sign language and imitation. Sit down together, tell them what a good day you had. The younger the child, the more you exaggerate your facial expressions and overact. An excellent assistant is the use of signs and symbols - children learn them before words. Accompany each sign with words.

Strengthening mental resilience through visualization

Help your child imagine an unpleasant situation and completely overcome it through positive emotions. Accompany everything with words, use graphics. Choose the form of communication in accordance with the age of the baby. The older he is, the more independence he will show during exercise.

Use imagination about desired results

An exercise using imagination that develops the emotional intelligence of preschoolers consists of 3 stages.

• Ask your child to do something good and pleasant. When training young children, describe how the action makes you feel. The older the age, the more independent description of feelings.
• Then, together, act out the same situation with the difference that the child will behave more selfishly. Again, describe the feelings that drive the actions.
• Together, evaluate both behavior options and point to the “correct” form.

In this exercise with young children, use imitation initially. Parents play, talking about their feelings (words, signs). With age, the child can train independently.

Awareness of your thoughts, feelings, working with them

Awareness of the cause of emotions is an important aspect of the development of emotional intelligence in preschool children. When your child is angry, ask him how angry he is. Ask what caused the anger. Teach your child to understand the relationship between what he thinks and how he feels. Then come up with reasons to make it feel safe (in case of fear) or encourage it (“your role in the fairy tale is small but important”).

For children, both preschool and school age, the opinion and behavior of their parents is very important. If you trust your child and give him a good example, he will believe you and imitate your actions. Children need independence, so don't be afraid to let them take responsibility for their actions. At the same time, constantly show your love. Even if children realize that their parents do not approve of their behavior, they should be confident in their love.

Practical advice for parents

It is important for parents to understand that there are no good or bad emotions. Every emotion experienced by a child is important and necessary for his full and harmonious interaction with the world around him. Through understanding and “living” his own and others’ emotional states, the child must come to control, create and change the world around him for the better. This is what will be the key to his happy future.

The development of emotional intelligence involves the child’s gradual mastery of each stage:

Understanding your own feelings

At this stage, the child gets acquainted with all the diversity of the emotional world, learns the name of each emotion, how it is expressed, listens to himself, learns to distinguish one emotion from another, and understand the reason for its appearance.

At this stage, parents are advised to:

• tell the child about feelings and emotions through visual material: pictures, manuals, children's literature with illustrations;
• read fairy tales and watch cartoons with rich emotional content together;
• voice your feelings and the feelings of your child in various situations: “I’m very angry now because you broke the cup”, “I see that you are upset because your favorite car is broken”, “Grandma is glad that you gave her this wonderful drawing";
• Ask your child every day: “What’s your mood today?”, “How did you feel today?”

Understanding another person's feelings

The child learns that not only he, but also other people have emotions and feelings, learns to determine what another person is experiencing by his facial expressions, posture, behavior, learns to support and empathize.

Parents will find it useful:

• don’t “sculpt” yourself into being ideal, happy and satisfied with life 24 hours a day. The child should see you for real: sometimes upset, sometimes tired, and sometimes angry. Only then will he learn to understand the feelings of other people and change his behavior in accordance with them: “Dad is upset today, he has troubles at work, let’s not play noisy games today, but watch a cartoon in your room”;
• discuss the behavior of fairy tale and cartoon characters: “What do you think Vasilisa the Wise felt when Ivan Tsarevich burned the frog’s skin without asking?”, “What do you think Kolobok’s mood was when he rolled away from his grandparents?”;
• develop a child’s sense of empathy and compassion. Don't forget that mom and dad are role models for their children. If your family does not have trusting relationships, an atmosphere of love, acceptance and support, all these feelings will remain inaccessible to the child.

Managing your own behavior

Once a child learns to understand and analyze what he feels, he will be able to control and manage his emotional state.

Parents need:

• teach your child acceptable ways to get rid of anger and anger: beat a pillow, tear paper, stomp your feet;
• teach to listen to bodily sensations;
• Together with your child, choose ways to raise your mood: go for a walk in the fresh air, watch a cartoon, listen to fun music.

Social interaction and the use of emotional resources in achieving goals

To become a happy and successful person in the future, a child needs to learn to interact with the people around him: establish and maintain interpersonal relationships, provide timely help and support, resolve conflicts, and be able to work in a team. This can be achieved only by being well aware of your own feelings and the feelings of other people. And - like the top of the pyramid - use your emotional resource to achieve your goals, personal growth and self-realization.

It is important for parents:

• develop the child’s communication skills through joint games with adults and peers, watching cartoons and films, reading literature on the topic of friendship and friends;
• develop adequate self-esteem, independence, and self-confidence. The child must be aware of responsibility for every action he makes and be prepared for the consequences.

“Emotional intelligence is the basis for the successful development of a preschooler” Kezhaeva Ulyana Olegovna

author: Kezhaeva Ulyana Olegovna

teacher of SOGBOU "Progymnasium "Polyanka"

“Emotional intelligence is the basis for the successful development of a preschooler”

Smolensk regional state budgetary

educational institution "Progymnasium "Polyanka"

PROJECT

“Emotional intelligence is the basis for the successful development of a preschooler”

(practice-oriented, collective, long-term)

Voronina A.G.

Kezhaeva U.O.

Smolensk 2020/2021

Relevance of the topic

As is known, each historical period in the development of psychological science is characterized by its own priority areas and problems, and different levels of popularity of research objects. Currently, in foreign and domestic psychology there is a growing interest in the study of emotional intelligence. The concept of “emotional intelligence (EQ)” is not new in pedagogy. Many scientists wrote about this, but used different terms.

To understand the term “emotional intelligence”, theoretical clarification is necessary. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a person’s ability to manage himself and other people. Emotional intelligence includes self-awareness, impulse control, confidence, self-motivation, optimism, communication skills, and the ability to effectively build relationships with others. It's how we deal with heartache, disappointment, stress and trouble. Undeveloped EQ, even in the most brilliant people, can level out career prospects, destroy relationships and lead to all sorts of addictions. Therefore, emotional intelligence plays an important role in the life and career of every person.

Modern psychology has proven that emotions are closely related to human needs. They help him adapt to the environment and encourage him to act. Emotions help a person understand how much his own behavior and the influences he experiences correspond to his basic needs, interests and values. Emotions express a person’s holistic attitude to the world, and the formation of the value-emotional attitude of children is mediated by the development of the emotional sphere of the teacher’s personality.

The development of emotional intelligence acquires particular importance and relevance in preschool age, since it is during this period that children actively develop emotionally, develop their self-awareness, the ability to reflect and decenter (the ability to take the position of a partner, take into account his needs and feelings).

Working with preschool children, we noticed that children sometimes find it difficult to manage their emotional state; some do not know how to truly have fun, experience emotional well-being and laugh from the heart. Many preschoolers find it difficult to determine whether a person is sad or happy. For a small child, recognizing and transmitting emotions is a rather complex process that requires him to have certain knowledge and a certain level of development. Conveying emotions is not only a facial expression, but also a certain posture and gestures that correspond to a particular emotional state. But emotions play an important role in the lives of children: they help to perceive reality and respond to it, and ultimately determine a person’s entire life.

It turns out that improving a child’s logical thinking and outlook is not the key to his future success in life. It is much more important that the child master the abilities of emotional intelligence, namely:

• the ability to control your feelings;
• the ability to consciously influence one’s emotions;
• the ability to identify your feelings and accept them as they are (recognize them);
• the ability to use your emotions for the benefit of yourself and others;
• the ability to communicate effectively with other people;
• the ability to recognize and acknowledge the feelings of others, to imagine oneself in the place of another person, to sympathize with him.

The development of a child’s emotional sphere contributes to the process of human socialization and the formation of relationships in adult and child communities.

Fortunately, unlike IQ (intellectual development), emotional intelligence can be developed and increased throughout life. D. Goleman (1995) argues that meaningful parent-child relationships are the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. Our emotional structures are formed through imitation of parents and those images with which we grew up. As with learning languages, new emotional knowledge can be acquired in adulthood, but with much greater effort. Early childhood is the ideal period for acquisition, and therefore parents have responsibility for the EQ of their children.

Having analyzed the above, a rationale emerged for the need to develop a system of pedagogical activities that are aimed at developing emotional intelligence among participants in the pedagogical process in our preschool educational organization.

Target

: Formation of a system of knowledge about the role and functions of emotional intelligence among participants in the pedagogical process.

Tasks

:

1. Promote the development of the emotional sphere of preschool children.
2. To promote the process of personal growth of the teaching staff and parents of preschool children, the realization of their creative potential, and the achievement of an optimal level of life satisfaction.
3. Prevention of burnout syndrome among teachers.

Project type:

(practice-oriented, collective, long-term)

Project participants

: preschoolers, parents, teaching staff.

Diagnostic methods

for preliminary diagnosis of the ability to understand and recognize emotions, empathize with others, formed knowledge about social emotions.

Conducting research:

First, children were observed in different activities. Then they asked the child questions:

Is it possible to laugh if your friend has fallen? Why? Is it possible to hurt animals? Why? Should we share toys with other children? Why? If you broke a toy, and the teacher thought of another child, should you say that it was your fault? Why? Is it possible to make noise when others are resting? Why? Is it okay to fight if another child takes your toy? Why?

Estimated results of the project:

The end result of the work should be a model of a child who understands the feelings of another, actively responds to the experiences of surrounding people and living beings, strives to come to the aid of someone in a difficult situation, and does not show hostility and aggressiveness towards others.

Project implementation activities

— The results and work on the project will be presented at the final teachers’ meeting in May 2021.

The program for the development of emotional intelligence of preschoolers consists of three blocks

.

The first block is “The ABC of Emotions”

is aimed at introducing children to basic emotions, teaching them verbal and non-verbal expression through role-playing images; mastering the conceptual content of words denoting emotions, experiences, shades of mood, their correlation with a certain state of a person, a fairy-tale character, a role image; children's awareness and understanding of their own emotions and other people; enriching children's ideas about empathy as a manifestation of sympathy, empathy and assistance.

Second block - “Emotional strategies of interpersonal interaction”

is aimed at developing in children the skills of verbal and non-verbal productive interaction with others, exchanging the roles of communication partners, assessing emotions and accepting the position of another; modeling emotionally significant situations that stimulate children to understand the reasons for the emotional manifestations of participants and choose optimal methods of behavior; learning methods of verbal and non-verbal “stroking”; mastering the mechanisms of identification, intellectual and personal reflection in situations of interpersonal interaction.

Third block - “Master of your feelings”

is aimed at teaching children to emotionally experience a game situation of various modal contents (happy, sad, etc.), arbitrary indirect expression of emotions, open expression of emotions in socially acceptable ways, constructive ways to manage their own behavior and emotional state; mastering the skills of self-control and self-regulation; involvement in situations of independent decision-making.

Work on the development of emotional intelligence in preschoolers must be carried out in close cooperation with the parents of their pupils. The teacher and parents must “do one thing” - create a favorable, emotional atmosphere for the child, consider him a full member of society, respect him, listen to his opinion. Children should constantly feel that their parents are concerned not only about their success in acquiring various skills and abilities. Steady attention of parents to the personal qualities and properties of children, to relationships with peers, to the culture of their relationships and emotional manifestations strengthens in the minds of preschoolers the social significance and importance of this special sphere - the sphere of emotional relationships with other people.

When working with parents to develop emotional intelligence, the following forms are used:

- moving folders (“What to do if...”, “Emotional and speech development of children”, “Emotional world of a preschooler”...);

— information stands (Memo to parents from their child “School of Emotions”);

— psychologist consultations, psychological trainings;

— conversations (“Instability of emotional state”)

— projects (“Our Emotions”);

— organizing exhibitions of crafts and works made together with children.

Organized pedagogical work with children and their parents can enrich the emotional experience of children and significantly mitigate or even completely eliminate shortcomings in their personal development.

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“Emotional intelligence is the basis for the successful development of a preschooler” Kezhaeva Ulyana Olegovna

Games and exercises to develop a child’s emotional intelligence

Psychologists recommend using games and exercises to enrich the sensory sphere and develop the emotional intelligence of children of different ages. All of them can be used by parents to help their child understand themselves and other people.

Games with emotional pictograms

Make pictures with faces with emotions of joy, sadness, anger, fear, surprise, calm, etc. You can use them separately or make a so-called “Mood Cube”. The child is asked the question “What is your mood today?”, and he selects the corresponding picture. Subsequently, you can complicate the game by describing certain situations, for example: “Katya had a fight with her best friend Masha. How do you think she felt? What is her mood now?

Exercise “Show the emotion”

The child conveys this or that emotion with the help of facial expressions, gestures and posture - mom and dad guess and vice versa. You can have a competition for the best depiction of an emotion.

Watching cartoons, films, reading literature, followed by discussion of the characters’ feelings.

Game “I am happy when...”

The child, together with mom and dad, take turns telling in what situations they are happy, afraid, upset, surprised, etc.

Emotional intelligence training in kindergarten

One of the most important goals of emotional intelligence and its development is to create a foundation on which a person can build throughout his life. Kindergarten students should primarily develop the skills presented in the following activities.

• “My Teddy Friend” - introducing children to the concepts of mood, feelings, emotions. Each student brings a favorite plush toy to kindergarten, which will accompany him throughout the entire project. He talks about the toy, why he likes it, how he plays with it, how the toy can improve his mood, etc. The purpose of the activity is to educate emotions and develop communication skills.
• The next stage is a conversation about what a mood can be, how different types of moods manifest themselves, and how a person feels during them.
• Acquaintance with pictures depicting 6 basic emotions (“emotion cube”) - joy, happiness, sadness, anger, fear, surprise. The purpose of this activity is to become familiar with the 6 basic emotions.
• Creating a mood calendar. Each student receives pictures depicting their mood, and each morning assigns one picture to their current emotional state. Mood can change throughout the day; at the end of the day the “average condition” is assessed. The goal is to become aware of your emotions and the possibility of using them in communication with others.
• Game with emotion cube. Students roll a dice and learn to name individual emotions. At the same time, they try to show them with facial expressions. The goal of the game is to deepen the theme of emotions, combine them with personal feelings, and express typical emotional symptoms.
• One of the variations of the game with an emotion cube. The teacher describes a certain situation, for example, “Caroline hurt her knee this morning in kindergarten.” Then one student rolls the dice and, depending on the emotions rolled, selects the appropriate response to the situation. For example, if fear was given - “Carolina is afraid that her mother will be angry because she tore her tights.” The goal of the game is to learn to think about possible reactions to different situations.
• The next stage is a bit like a psychological therapy session. It consists of talking about what mood the students are currently experiencing, how they feel, what happens to their body with different emotions.
• "Sculptures". Pupils dance to their favorite music. At an agreed signal (the music stops playing), they must remain motionless, like statues. The teacher changes the mood of the statues (sad, happy, angry). The goal of the game is to try to express emotions and respond to an agreed signal. In addition, this game is a good way to improve concentration.
• Following the body's reaction. After active games, the teacher talks to the children about what is happening to their body (observation of heartbeats, heaviness in the arms and legs, rapid breathing, which gradually calms down, etc.).
• Photographing pupils' expressions of feelings. Children see how many expressions their faces can have. Goal: assessing emotions – your own and those around you.