Parents' meeting "Little children have great rights"

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- Good afternoon! I thank you for coming to this meeting. I count on your help and support, on mutual understanding. I am confident that our cooperation will be successful. Today we will discuss a very important and pressing issue related to the protection of the rights and dignity of our children, and also consider our rights and responsibilities as parents towards children. We are talking about children's rights. And now from the “magic chest” you will take out objects symbolizing the rights of the child. Your task is to determine what right we are talking about. Birth certificate - What kind of document? What right does it remind you of? (About the right to a name). Heart - What right can a heart represent? (About the right to care and love). House - Why was the house here? What right does it remind you of? (About the right to a house). Envelope - What does the envelope remind you of? (No one has the right to read other people's letters and peep). Primer - What right did the primer remind you of? (On the right to education). (All items are hung on a magnetic board) - We are not indifferent to the rights of our children. They are all proclaimed in the Convention on the Rights of the Child, which was adopted on November 20, 1989 at a meeting of the UN General Assembly. The child receives initial information about his rights in the family, then the state gets involved in legal education. According to the Family Code of the Russian Federation, Article 63 stipulates the rights and responsibilities of parents. It is the parents who are responsible for the upbringing and education of their children; it is the parents who bear the responsibility for the health, spiritual and moral development of the child. - What do you, parents, need to do to raise a worthy person? (I suggest dividing into groups of 3-5 people, writing answers and discussing together) Look how much we have to give to our children. We love them. - I suggest that you now resolve the following situations and during their discussion we will derive a formula for loving your child in order to raise him as a worthy person. But I want to note that we can only raise such a person in a family, because a child has the right to be raised in a family.

You are a mother, you have a son, you have put aside 1,500 rubles for boots. Your son comes home from school and says that he needs 200 rubles for breakfast, he needs 1000 rubles to buy sneakers because they are torn, 300 rubles for a textbook. - What will you do in this situation? (parents’ answers by group and discussion) - Here we conclude that we must make self-sacrifice for the sake of the happiness of our children, since if we don’t buy him a textbook, we will violate the right to education, if we don’t buy shoes, he will walk with wet feet , and we must take care of preserving his health, because he has the right to it. This means that this is our responsibility. - We work further - we compose a formula for love. According to the Convention, we parents must provide daily care for our children. - How should this manifest itself? (Parents' answers) -Add “daily care” to our love formula. — Does this happen in your family when children are afraid of something? Do your children have fears? (parents' answers) Children's fears are a problem for many families, and it must be resolved in a timely manner. - How do you behave in this situation? (parents' answers by group) Here it is - parental wisdom. This is another component in our formula. According to the Family Code, parents are responsible for the mental state of the child. Now answer these questions: - How do you spend your weekend? What is your child doing at this time? -Do you often give your children a holiday? Do you create bright moments in life for them? Parents' answers. — All these components are also included in the formula of parental love for their children, so that they grow up as worthy, happy people. Formula of parental love = self-sacrifice + daily care + parental wisdom + creating a favorable, joyful atmosphere in the family + (components are posted on a magnetic board) Each of you can add something of your own to this open formula. The Convention emphasizes that the well-being of each child largely depends on the parents; they are the first to bear responsibility for the child. The modern poet Mark Schwartz wrote jokingly, on behalf of the children, about what parents should be like: If you are parents - Caresses, Praisers. If you are parents - Forgivers, Lovers. If Permits, Buyers, Givers, Then you are not parents, but simply Delighters! And if you are parents, you are Grumpy, Grumpy. If you are parents - Scolders, Shames, Don't let go, Dog-forbidden, You know, parents, You are simply - Crocodiles.

There are moments in parenting when you cannot scold or punish a child. - Tell me, when should this not be done? • When the child is sick; • During meals, after sleep or before bedtime, during work; • Immediately after a physical or mental injury (fall, fight, bad grade) • When a child cannot cope with any shortcoming, making sincere efforts; • In all cases when something does not work out; when the internal motives of an action are unclear to parents; • When the parents themselves are tired, upset or irritated for some reason of their own. The main thing to remember is that children learn not so much from their mistakes as from their successes. -Dear parents! If we became children now for a moment, we would probably remember what we lacked and what we were most often offended by. And each of your children, when communicating with you, wishes that they would not make empty promises, would not quibble over trifles, would not read lectures, would not choose friends, but would simply love him. I propose to anonymously answer the question “What kind of parents are we?” (I hand out paper and pens, parents answer the question, music plays), I read out several answers. Now I will read you the children’s answers to the question “What are your mom and dad like?” (You can make a video) - As you can see, our ideas about ourselves as parents do not always coincide with children’s. — I also want to bring to your attention a slightly humorous test, but as they say, there is some truth in every joke. The test will help us understand what kind of parents we are. (sheets with the test are distributed, time is given to fill out, calm music plays)

Test “What kind of parents are we?” 1. Do you follow articles in magazines, television and radio programs on the topic of education? Do you read books on this topic from time to time? 2. Are you and your spouse unanimous in raising children? 3. If a child offers you his help, will you accept it, even if the matter may be delayed or even stopped altogether? 4. Your child has committed an offense. In this case, will you think about whether his behavior is the result of your upbringing? 5. Do you use the form of prohibition or order only when it is really necessary? 6. Do you think that consistency is one of the basic pedagogical principles? 7. Are you aware that the environment surrounding a child has a significant influence on him? 8. Do you recognize that sports and physical education are of great importance for the harmonious development of a child? 9. Can you not order, but ask your child for something? 10. Is it unpleasant for you to “get rid of” your child with a phrase like: “I don’t have time” or “Wait until I finish work”?

Key to the test For each positive answer, give yourself 2 points, for the answer “sometimes” - 1 and for a negative answer - 0. Less than 6 points. You have a rather vague idea of real education. And, although they say that it’s never too late to start, we advise you not to rely on this saying and without delay to improve your education in this area. From 7 to 14 points. You do not make major mistakes in your upbringing, but still you should think about some things about yourself and your results in this area. And you can start by devoting the next weekend entirely to the children, forgetting for a while your friends and production problems. And rest assured, your children will fully reward you for this. More than 15 points. You are doing a good job with your parenting responsibilities. Still, wouldn't it be possible to improve something else a little? The tests are distributed to parents on pieces of paper; they can answer them at home. “I tried to summarize everything that we talked about today in the memo “For you, parents.” These recommendations will help you protect your child's rights. Let's listen to the words of V.G. Belinsky: “Parents, only parents, have the most sacred duty to make their children human, while the duty of educational institutions is to make them scientists, members of the state. So let’s work together to make our children human...” If support surrounds him, he gains confidence in himself. he will always be satisfied with life. Be fair to him, people, and your child will be fair! Love him for who he is, he doesn’t need advances and flattery, and he, as is typical for children, will respond to this with hot love! - Thank you for your attention. Health to you and good luck in raising your children!

REMINDER FOR PARENTS

1. “Parents, parents alone, have the most sacred duty to make their children human beings, while the duty of educational institutions is to make them scientists, members of the state. So let’s work together to make our children human...” BELINSKY V.G. 2. Know how to listen to your child always and everywhere, showing patience and tact, and speak to him the way you would like to be spoken to; maintain a positive image of your child, punish without humiliating, but preserving his dignity; admit your mistakes, know how to ask for forgiveness for your wrong actions and deeds. 3. MARK SCHWARTZ If you are parents - caresses, praisers. If you are parents - Forgivers, Lovers. If Permits, Buyers, Givers, Then you are not parents, but simply Delighters! And if you are parents, you are Grumpy, Grumpy. If you are parents - Scolders, Shames, Don't let go, Dog-forbidden, You know, parents, You're just - Crocoditors

4. If support surrounds him, he gains confidence in himself. Praise him generously, and then he will always be satisfied with life. Be fair to him, people, and your child will be fair! Love him for who he is, he doesn’t need advances and flattery, and he, as is typical for children, will respond to this with hot love! List of used literature 1. Arnautova E.P. Teacher and family. M., 2001 2. Zvereva O.L. Competition for experts in pedagogical secrets. // D/v 1997, No. 10. 3. Zvereva O.L. Methodological assistance to the teacher in preparing for communication with parents. // Management of preschool educational institutions 2002, No. 4. 4. Zvereva O.L., Krotova T.V. // Communication between teachers and parents in preschool educational institutions //. 5. Khabibullina R.Sh. “The system of working with parents of pupils. Assessment of the activities of preschool educational institutions by parents” // Preschool pedagogy 2007, No. 7. 6. Shatveryan T.S., Prishchepa S.S. “Technology for harmonization of parent-child relationships.” 7. Svirskaya L. Cribs for parents // Kindergarten from all sides. 2002 No. 47 -48 8. Aralova M.A. Ten golden rules for holding parent meetings // Preschool teacher. 2007. No. 5 9. Arnautova E.P. We are planning to work with our family. // Management of preschool educational institutions 2002, No. 4

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Scenario for a parent meeting with children

Plan:

Meeting the parents.
Introductory speech by the head on the topic of the parent meeting.
Student performance.
Tests for parents.
Summarizing. Pedagogical advice based on test results.
Individual conversations. Collection of personal information about students.

Progress of the meeting:

Parents are given forms to fill out information about family composition.
The teacher introduces parents to the topic of the meeting.
Student performance.

1st student: Today we will tell you about some of the rights of the child. 2nd student: A child is every human being under the age of 18, unless national laws provide for majority at an earlier age. 1 student: The participating states recognize that every child has an inalienable right to life. Student 2: Protecting the rights and interests of children rests with their parents. Parents are the legal representatives of their children and act to protect their rights and interests in relations with any persons. Reader 1: As soon as you were born into the world, your first right is: Receive, to be proud of it, your personal name. Reader 2: It is very difficult to live alone in the world. Use your right to live with Mom and with Dad everywhere, guys. (Children hand out and show drawings of their family.) Reader 3: There is also the right to remember to think and create and your thoughts to others, if you want to give them. (Children show their crafts and creative works: crosswords, essays, etc.) Reader 4: I’m not happy with the sprout And I’m not that strong yet, But don’t you dare hurt me We have such a law. (A skit invented by the children is played out here.) Reader 5: If you have a fever, your whole body aches, and there’s no time for playing at all, then calling a doctor for help is also a child’s right. Reader 6: In order to make friends with science, With a book in my small hand, I take advantage of the right to study in my native language. Reader 7: I grew up, I took books and I went to first grade. All children go to school - We have this right. (A couple of children dance the school waltz.) Reader 8: I can celebrate my children's holiday just like an adult. If I get hungry, I have the right to receive food. Reader 1: Whether you are weak or strong, White or black, it’s all the same. You were born to be happy. This right is given to everyone. (The last words are spoken by the readers in chorus) Children sing the song “In secret to the whole world.”

4. Tests for parents. A) What kind of parents are we? Do we often think about whether we are good parents and whether we cope with our responsibilities as educators? So what kind of parents are we? Test yourself by answering the questions (yes, no, sometimes).

Do you follow magazine articles, television and radio programs on parenting issues? Do you read books on this topic from time to time?
Your child did something. In this case, do you wonder whether his behavior is a result of your upbringing?
Are you and your spouse on the same page when it comes to raising children?
If a child offers you his help, will you accept it, even if this may delay the matter, or even stop altogether?
Do you use the form of prohibition or order only when it is really necessary?
Do you think that consistency is one of the basic pedagogical principles?
Are you aware that a child's environment has a significant influence on him?
Do you recognize that sports and physical education are of great importance for the harmonious development of a child?
Can you not order your child, but ask him for something?
Is it unpleasant for you to get rid of your child with a phrase like: “I don’t have time” or “Wait until I finish work?”

For each positive answer, score yourself 2 points, for the answer “sometimes” - 1, and for a negative answer - 0. Less than 6 points. You have a rather vague idea of real upbringing. And although they say that it’s never too late to start, we advise you not to rely on this saying, but, without delay, start improving your knowledge in this area. From 7 to 14 points. You don't make major mistakes in parenting, but you still have something to think about. And you can start by devoting the next weekend entirely to the children, forgetting for a while your friends and production problems. And rest assured, your children will fully reward you for this. More than 15 points. You cope well with your parental responsibilities. Still, wouldn't it be possible to improve something else a little?

B) Are you a good parent? You can answer the questions of this test “yes”, “no”, “I don’t know”. So:

You often react to some of your child’s actions with an “explosion” and then regret it.
Sometimes you take help or advice from friends when you don't know how to respond to your child's behavior.
Your intuition and experience are the best advisers in raising a child.
Sometimes you happen to trust your child with a secret that you would not tell anyone else.
You are offended by other people's negative opinions about your child.
You happen to ask your child for forgiveness for your behavior.
You believe that a child should not have secrets from his parents.
You notice differences between your character and the character of your child, which sometimes surprise (delight) you.
You worry too much about your child's troubles or failures.
You may resist buying an interesting toy for your child (even if you have the money) because you know the house is full of them.
You think that up to a certain age, the best educational argument for a child is physical punishment (belt).
Your child is exactly what you dreamed of.
Your child gives you more trouble than joy.
Sometimes you feel like your child is teaching you new thoughts and behaviors.
You have conflicts with your own child.

Calculation of results For each answer “yes” to questions: 2, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12, 14, as well as “no” to questions: 1, 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, 13, 15, you receive 10 points. For every “I don’t know” you get 5 points. Count up your points. 100 - 150 points. You have great opportunities to understand your own child correctly. Your views and judgments are your allies in solving various educational problems. If this is accompanied by such open and tolerant behavior in practice, you can be recognized as an example worthy of emulation. For the ideal you need one small step. This could be your child's opinion. Will you take the risk? 50 - 99 points. You are on the right road to better understanding your own child. You can resolve your temporary difficulties or problems with your child by starting with yourself. And don’t try to make excuses about lack of time or your child’s nature. There are several issues that you have influence over, so try to use it. And don’t forget that understanding does not always mean accepting. Not only the child, but also your own personality too. 0 - 49 points. It seems that one can only sympathize more with your child than with you, since he did not end up with a parent - a good friend and guide on the difficult road of gaining life experience. But all is not lost. If you really want to do something for your child, try something different. Maybe you can find someone who can help you with this. It will not be easy, but in the future it will return with gratitude and the established life of your child.

5. The ABCs of education (Advice to parents). (Education of schoolchildren, No. 8, 2001)

Sometimes children take all school troubles too personally. Constantly teach them to distinguish between what is important and what is not so important.
Everyone knows that reading while lying down is bad; it damages your eyesight. As a last resort, allow children to read while sitting in bed.
Do you know about the Sukhomlinsky regime? Don’t do homework during the day or evening, but get up at five o’clock and study in the morning. Some kids really like it.
Pay close attention to whether you are giving one child more attention and affection than the other. Children are extremely scrupulous in matters of justice.
Remember, young children have not yet developed a sense of humor. You joked, but the child was offended. This is a case when you shouldn't experiment. A sense of humor will come with time.
Children try smoking at 10-11 years old. This is the best time to talk about the dangers of tobacco. Show your son how upset you are. Don't threaten punishment - this will make smoking an attractive heroic act. Tell us how people die from lung cancer.
Remember how long ago you heard children's laughter in your home? The more often children laugh, the better their upbringing goes.
There are two peak periods for journaling in human life: 15 and 32 years. Respect the teenager keeping a journal. If you enter the room and see that your daughter or son is writing something, leave the child and don’t ask anything.
To prevent your teenager from smoking, take care of his sports activities. Does he have a soccer ball, a bicycle, a tennis racket? Teenagers who are athletes usually do not smoke.
Know, after thinking, to refuse any advice, including the advice of the Parents' Newspaper.

We are not the masters of our children's lives. We cannot know their fate. We don't fully know what is good and what is bad for their future. Therefore, we will be more careful in all decisions that may affect the child’s path.

Memo for parents Dear parents! Let these rules, verified by life, help you in raising a child, in establishing good relationships with him, in strengthening your authority, mutual respect and love. This is possible if in your family:

Trust is the basic rule.
You always tell your child the truth.
Try to be an example for the child.
You respect the child as an individual who has the right to his own point of view.
Consult with your child.
Don't deceive your child.
Learn to correctly evaluate your actions and the actions of other people.
Do not set a goal to achieve complete obedience from the first word, give the child the opportunity to see whether he is right or wrong.
If your child needs help, put things off until later.
The way out of a hopeless situation is a joke.
TV is good, but nature is better.
Learning and reading are a joy for the whole family. Read aloud regularly.
When judging a child for an action, remember yourself at his age.
Know your child's friends and invite them into the house.
In the evening, discuss with the whole family how your day went.

Techniques for controlling the organ of behavior Organizing an anti-crisis environment for the child Where we talk to the child, whether we are sitting or standing, who is sitting next to us - all this is part of the structure of the environment. This can create a warm, informal, friendly or cold, business-like, authoritarian atmosphere of communication. Deliberate ignoring If we do not react to unpleasant aspects of a child’s behavior, but calmly listen to him, then this strengthens the process of influence. It is necessary not only not to react to these aspects of behavior, but also to support the child if he begins to behave correctly. Hint You can tell your child how to behave or what behavior is unacceptable, using, for example, the words “Stop playing for now,” or non-verbal cues, such as a glance or a nod, reminding the child of his responsibilities. This is a simple, uncritical comment that helps the child take the next step. Emotional Support Like praise, emotional support helps improve a child's self-esteem. When a child's condition is caused by feelings of insecurity, fear or anger about some life situation, he may especially need your attention and care to solve the problem. Help in difficult situations When we know that a child cannot start or finish a task without additional help, we can help him overcome the first difficult steps. Nonverbal methods of influence Nonverbal influence includes various techniques: for example, “being nearby” and “physical contact”. Sometimes, in order to calm down, it is enough for a child to simply have an adult nearby. Physical contact is a very important method of influence. Shaking your hand or patting your child on the shoulder can help calm your child down. Changing Direction Changing the direction of a child or group's activities helps them calm down and return to a normal routine. When using this method, the child's energy and attention are switched to another type of activity, thanks to which he begins to control his behavior. Direct instructions With the further development of the crisis state, the child is less and less able to make reasonable decisions, so he needs to be given direct instructions. Direct instructions tell the child clearly and unambiguously what he should do. These could be comments, reminders about rules of behavior or daily routine, and instructions. Break When a child is upset or irritated, you need to ask him to go to a calm or quiet place so that he can come to his senses.

6. Individual conversations. Collection of personal information about students who are “difficult” children

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